The Struggle of Growing up Biracial in America

By Rachale Kelley

Biracial. Loving, Bi-racial
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The other day I posted on Facebook that I was going to share how life was growing up bi-racial.

There was a war going on in my head about my biracial story.

I kept wanting to talk about growing up in foster care. But after many suggestions for me to watch the movie “Loving,” I decided to take the plunge and even though I didn’t get a chance to finish watching it, I was able to get clear and separate the two issues.

There are many questions I have had down through the years, but was not able to ask my mother because she had passed away.  I have been able to gather some information based on my aunt’s knowledge, research and life experiences.

I never could understand why my mother put me into foster care until now.

After watching this movie. I now understand why! I could see my parents going through the same pressure this couple went through. I actually felt the pain they went through back then and why we were put out on the streets on that dead cold winter day.

My mother had no choice due to the pressure that came with being in a  bi-racial marriage and it not being accepted at that time.
She couldn’t stay with my father because she was not accepted there and she couldn’t go home to the South with her family due to fear that the KKK would kill us or her immediate family. Her mother told her ” If you bring that child down here they might kill all of us.”
This left my mother with few options especially since she had no job and babies to take care of.   Today I am very grateful for the movie Loving because it brought all the pieces of my life together as to why my mother left us with someone else.
And I am grateful for my mother who loved us enough to find a black family that loved us unconditionally for almost 12 years.
If she was still here I would give her the biggest hug ever, tell her I now understand she did not reject me on purpose and why she had to leave me.
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About the Author

Rachale Kelley helps moms who have children with physical and mental challenges pursue their dreams. She believes every parent should have a way to escape their 9-5 and access to systems and strategies that will keep them from becoming overwhelmed in the process so that they can have more time freedom with their family and less time being overwhelmed.

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